In my view - I don’t understand it

Life is full of shades of grey.

I wouldn’t go as far as to say 50 shades but to me, life is never black or white.

Life is made up of a series of complicated and delicate decisions. In your own life and in different social, working and family circles you can be the funny one, angry one, wise one, silly one or dumb one.

I think what I am driving at here is the fact that people have many different faces depending on the situation at hand.

I also think the sooner we all realise that none of us really have a clue what we are doing in this life and accept that we are winging it to a degree, the better we can understand the pitfalls we have encountered.

I’ll use myself as an example here, at work I might be seen as the steady head to colleagues.

I can also be seen as funny to some friends and seen as an idiot to others.

Simply put, I’m human. I find it hard to get my head round some statements that I read online on social media or in other news articles.

We tend to judge people by their actions but want to be judged on our intentions.

This is why I can’t understand when people attack the work done by volunteers.

I don’t understand when those who give up their time are criticised to the point where they question why they even bother.

I don’t think volunteers are above criticism, and by that I mean fair criticism and reflection rather than personal attacks and insults.

Volunteers whether they give up their time to the community, to charity or to a polticial party should be commended.

If a political volunteer came to my door, I have the right to question what they are campaigning.

I do not have the right to be rude or aggressive to them, even if I have no intention of voting for that party.

I think it takes a special quality to give up the amount of time and effort required to get events and groups up and running.

It also takes a huge undertaking to keep those same events and groups ticking over.

Volunteers are the backbone of communities in my opinion. An opinion that I hope most people agree with.

However there have been a number of comments recently which I think flirt along the line between criticism and nasty and it might be worth people taking a step back and looking at the wider picture.

Recently, I came across the word ‘sonder’. While I do not think it is an official word in the Oxford dictionary it means “the realisation that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own — populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness”.

I find myself, whether it is on the way to a job, writing an article or being stuck in traffic looking at residents and other motorists, and have this exact thought.

We are all trying our best, we all have aims and ambitions.

Whether it is to get on the property ladder, get that promotion or start a family.

I’ve rambled on enough this week, but next time you look to criticise someone/something, take a step back and think a little deeper. I love hearing your thoughts. Get me the usual way lee.mccann@jpress.co.uk.